EXCLUSIVEly, Lisa Vanderpump opened its battles with depression as it affected her decision to say “RHOBH” goodbye during the month of Mental Health Awareness.
Lisa Vanderpump, 60, is aware of the importance of the first step towards mental health. She decided to walk away from the show, when she realized she was fighting against depression, to take care of herself. “While discussing one of her latest projects, Pooch Perfect, where she is a judge at ABC, I found it extremely difficult, a dark hole to get out of,” says Lisa to HollywoodLife Exclusebally. “Grief takes some time, but you get there, and things get better, even on housewives. All the battle I have been looking for and wanted to have with my life isn’t something I just want.”
The Vanderpump Wine Founder left the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills after 9 seasons. He has many popular LA restaurants, including TomTom, Pump & Sur. Her last season focused on a mistaken dog adoption, which broke up the cast. A pup from Vanderpump Dogs Foundation, Dorit Kemsley (44) took it to another family after struggling with her children
The family gave it to a shelter, and Lisa didn’t. The press and Dorit broke news and the cast accused Lisa of the leaking of the news she denied, and the whole season of the drama and of the finger followed. The only housewife with whom Lisa still talked was Denise Richards, 50, so that she stopped shooting with the other ladies and said the gathering to concentrate herself.
But behind the scenes, what the spectators didn’t know was much more. While she thought she could push through filming season 9, she was hit harder than she realized by her brother Mark Vanderpump’s untimely loss of suicide.
“When my only sibling committed suicide, to me that was just devastating,” Lisa, who also lost her mother a year later, added. “And that radiated so many feelings because all of the survivors to suicide think, ‘Oh, maybe I could’ve spoken to them that day.’ Maybe you couldn’t have changed the path.”
Although she left one of the Bravo shows, while still looking after herself, she had another one on the board to deal with.
“Mine [depression] was circumstantial grief really because of something that happened,” Lisa said. “So for me, I really needed to be proactive with it. I sat there and then I had to start doing Vanderpump Rules and I was committed to that. I was running on four cylinders. I wasn’t really where I should be.”
The reality star also believes COVID-19 has played on mental health in the last year. “I even look at COVID — wow. It was a lot having our businesses shut down and wondering what the hell we were going to do, but I kind of did take the bull by the horns,” she reflected. “I didn’t see anybody here for 9 months until we started doing Overserved. We have to take responsibility for our own happiness. Don’t stay in a toxic relationship. Don’t stay in something. If it’s really negative in your life, step away from it. Be proactive. Life is never easy. When things are going wrong, there’s always something around the corner that’s going to bite you in the ass.”
It was important to find a treatment that worked with her, and the reality star and project advocate of Trevor urges everybody who struggles to do what they need. “After my brother had died, I took antidepressants and I was just looking briefly for grievance counseling, but it was very helpful,” Lisa said. “I think people are reaching. Not necessarily a complaint advisor, but it is so important to connect to someone.
I also think it’s very important to me when you’re isolated, even if you can connect to Face Time with people. We should be with and integrate with people. I believe that exercise is one of the keys of your life to structure. She said, “Going out of bed and getting workout.”